Blog-Leslie J Saul-Personal Development Coach

8 Questions to Determine a Toxic Relationship

Are you in a toxic relationship? Toxic Relationship A soulful, sentimental, truly worthwhile relationship should make you feel rejuvenated, positive, refreshed, supported, and motivated- not depleted, damaged, unwanted, or unworthy! If spending time with a significant other or loved one leaves you regularly feeling any of the latter, you might be experiencing what is known as a toxic relationship! A Toxic relationship can strike in any area of your life, not just in your love life. Often, unhealthy emotional interactions occur between lovers, but mothers, sons, daughters, fathers, sisters, brothers, in-laws, friends, acquaintances and coworkers can all bring toxicity to [...]

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5 Effective Rules Lead to Conflict Management

They can end marriages, ruin family reunions, and even lead to the loss of an old friend, so conflicts are always bad, right? Wrong! Actually, conflicts are quite necessary for healthy relationships to develop! They just need to be managed effectively. When at least one of the parties involved keeps a cool head and proper conflict management is put into effect, a disagreement can lead to a discovery that makes for a stronger relationship; an argument can lead to an open, honest discussion where an arrangement that all are happy with can be reached! Managing Conflict The basic [...]

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5 Breakup Mood Boosters that Might Do More Harm than Good

Breakup mood boosters that may be causing you harm Breakup mood boosters Breakups suck. When a flame dies down you get left with a lot of empty space and time to fill. You’ll find a lot of (often unsolicited) advice on how to deal, but that doesn’t mean you should follow it all! Here are some popular post-breakup mood boosters that might feel good at first, but will leave you feeling even worse than before later! 1. Bad-mouthing your ex While it might make you feel better to bad-mouth him/her right now, it’ll only make you feel like a [...]

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5 Breaking Communication Barriers

Breaking Communication Barriers The Foundation to healthy relationships Is it trust? Love? Laughter? Lust? No? Then what? Think about it…. What is necessary- what needs to come first- for all of these other components of a relationship to take root? Communication, of course! You cannot build trust with another person without getting to know them first! Similarly, it would be awfully hard to fall in love with someone if you could never speak to, see, or reach out to them. Communication, in the form of body language, has a great deal to do with lust, as well. There a number of [...]

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The Fog of Useless Emotions

Guilt and Self-Doubt-Useless Emotions You may not have realized it before, but self-doubt and guilt are useless emotions. They usually burst into your life hand-in-hand, each adding fuel to the other’s fire. In the simplest of explanations, self-doubt is a lack of faith in oneself. It can stem from low self-esteem, or from how others perceive (or how you believe they perceive) you and your abilities. It can sometimes arise after an alleged failure, but more often a series of ‘failures’ or incidents in which others have openly questioned your character and abilities must take place before self-doubt can set [...]

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