When it comes to dating and relationships, it can be hard to find genuine people who aren’t just looking for a hookup or looking to play games.
Online dating makes it easier for people to play their little games because we can’t see them and pick up on their body language, like we would in the real world. It allows people to hide behind their creatively invented personas and draw you into a world of make-believe.
Some people play games unknowingly, usually as a defense mechanism that is manifested from their insecurities. But on the other side of the spectrum, there are people who just like to play games for the fun of it, without having any regard for the feelings of the person on the receiving end.
There are a few games that men and women often play when they enter the world of online dating.
The Deception Game
This is the game that is played most often in online dating and is pretty much just straight out dishonesty. People may not think that lying about something small like their age or their height is a big issue, but think about it. If they can’t be honest with you about such small details, how on earth can you trust them to be honest about anything else?
So while you may look better in that old photo from 10 years ago, it doesn’t really portray the real you. Honesty goes a long way!
The Vanishing Act
You’ve met someone online, you start talking and even go out on a date. Things are going well (or so you think) and then all of a sudden “POOF” – They vanish into thin air!
Unfortunately it’s easier to block and avoid people online than it is in real life and a lot of people would rather just end all contact with no warning, rather than being honest and letting the other person know they aren’t interested or they have found someone else.
The best thing to do is just move on. These people aren’t worth your time and obviously aren’t the type of person you are looking for.
The Upgrade
The great thing about online dating is that you have lots of potential suitors, all in the one place. But this can also be a bad thing in terms of game playing. It is all too easy to find someone else with a simple click of the mouse.
Someone who plays this kind of game sees no problem with leading you on and keeping you around as a backup in case their other options don’t work out. Or worse still, they will make plans with you and then cancel when someone “better” comes along.
You wouldn’t put up with that type of behaviour in a real dating situation, why should you put up with it when you’re online dating?
Trust plays a huge part in any successful relationship and when you take the leap and start online dating, you really need to reserve that trust for the people who truly deserve it. Base your opinions on their actions, not their words.
You have the choice not to participate in their games. In the end, these players will just end up in their own pathetic little game of solitaire!
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